Chapter 2: Why did I Slapped My EX-Wife

Inetu sindibasala kuseli kwa Pemphero Mphande . Kutumiza post as anon. No. Ine ndimalemba in my name on my page because everything is true and I have the receipts. Sindikamba zinthu zopanda umboni. Ndilibe nthawi yonama olo kunena miseche olo mabodza.

Why, am doing this?

is BECAUSE I LOVED HER,I STILL LOVE HER BUT SHE REALLY HURT ME AND UNTIL NOW SHE HAS NO REMORSE. I built my future and everything around her but she BETRAYED and BACKSTABBED me IN SECRET and am here to reveal everything publicly for my closure and healing process. I need to speak out now not tomorrow.

Last year somewhere in November or December, I booked a marriage counseling session with Rev Yasin Gama of Mvama CCAP.

That day our car went for maintenance and we hired a private taxi with a driver. During the trip, I was on a call , Ma Chisomo asked me for Airtel money of K1,500.00 (one thousand five hundred kwacha) while I was still speaking on the phone and ignored her.

After I finished my call. I asked her, kuti bwanji sumawona ndinali pa call komaso why asking K1,500 ya data yet you have K25,000 ku account yako ya Airtel money.

She responded: ” Aahh inu, 1,500 yomweyi kuchita kuyakha choncho, Kodi mesa mumati ndinu bwana.” Ine I responded ” the issue is not the amount koma mene wapemphelamo after all iweyo tili ku Capetown unayambapo wandigulira Airtime ya R10 or kumalawi kuno ya 500 Kwacha. Please use your money, don’t bother me. I won’t give you”

Kenako yeyo said,” ndiye chifukwa chani umandiletsa kukapempha ndalama kwa amuna ena?.”I remained quite. Nkhani yomuletsa kupempha pempha is like this;

1) Mfumu Kapingama this is one of my close friends, he is in America now. Last year Ma chisomo commented on his Facebook page kuti “mula tigayileniko ya fanta, malawi wavuta.” George said nditumiza mula. It ended there. I saw her comment but I ignored it as just for jokes. Second time she commented on another post reminding him to send the money.

That day, I cautioned her Kodi bwanji ur embarrassing me publicly komaso kwa azizanga. Iweyo you have a shop and millions, even today you can buy more than 50.crates of fanta pawekha. Why are you doing this? She apologized. I forgave her.

2) pali tsikana wina wake amati Aggie wa kappa, they only know each other through my page. Anamupepha tsikanayu kuti amugulire Nivea ku Sasafulika. And, the lady bought it. Then cautioned her again kuti why kupephapepha as if I can’t provide olo iweyo sungagule wekha?

3) Blessings also known as ALONGOSI based in Capetown:

Tsiku lina tili kumunda, ALONGOSI is her male best friend amayakhulana pa week may be more than 5 times. He called and she told him tili kumunda kuzathila fertilizer. ALONGOSI anayakha nanetu pano ndakolola 50 bags ya maize. Ma Achisomo anapepha zawoyo and he responded mkazi wa Bwana ngati iwe uzipepha chimanga. I told him he should ignore it. She is just joking.

I asked her kuti Mai Achisomo are you trying to say ifewo we can’t afford to buy chimanga kuti iweyo uzipephetsa kwa zako wamuna anapepesa.

Tinafika Kwa Rev Gama. We did first session then we were meant to go for two sessions as well. He asked us to discuss when we reach home when to do it. Tinafika kunyumba utsiku. I asked her when should we go. She responded ine sizapitakoso iweyo umawawuze zonse abusa aja instead of kungoyakhula zazing’ono. So I don’t want counseling anymore.

I asked why did she say “ndiye bwanji umandiletsa kukapepha kwa amuna ena” do you think ndi mau abwino. Amayakha mwano then I slapped her twice. Yeyo anatenga chi brush cha kutoilet kundimenya then she wanted to take mirror ya ku toilet kuti andiswele mutu.

I locked her in the toilet and asked the maids to open the door after 10 minutes after she calms down. I forgot my phone in the toilet anayimenyetsa pansi four times koma sina sweke then kenako anatenga zovala zanga kuzidula dula. (Video is below.)

I did apologized to her, mother inlaw, her sister and my sisters that yes what I did was wrong to slap her. And, this was once in 13 years we have been together.

Mind you. All this while I was still celebrating her and taking her along to my international business trips.